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After the adventures of the weekend I had in Iowa City I started to think about dating. When did it become so confusing? Being a single girl in these “modern times” you have to decipher code. I did not sign up for this. Technology has made a lot of things easier but I believe it just makes dating a lot more confusing….

Technology blunders I am slowly figuring out :

1.) When he says : Can I get your number?

What it means:  I probably do not have the balls to actually call you. But, don’t worry I will send you a text the next day just to let you know that you have not slipped my mind. Well not yet. Oh yea and I am more concerned that I have not slipped out of your mind. Because it makes men feel good to know that they have several options right at..well the keypad of their phone.

If : If the guy actually takes his crack berry out of his pocket and makes the excruciating physical effort to put it up to his ear and actually call, you might have just found a real man. Well that might be pushing it.. maybe a guy that is ACTUALLY INTO YOU. Please at least give him a chance.

2.) Friend Requests & Facebook Chat

Ok I am not going to lie. I might be a little too forward on facebook for my own good. The first step to problem, is admitting you have one. I have no shame when asking for a friend request. I mean it is just a friend request. Does not mean I am in love with you. I just want to creep out the situation. I also believe guys want to do that chasing but they also do like little signs showing that you “might” actually be into them. WARNING this friend request is the gateway to information about him, but it also makes dating a whole lot more messy.

• What I mean by messy… what usually happens to me after becoming friends with a guy on the book is when that little green circle appears at the bottom of my screen and I have a new facebook chat. He messaged me!! But honestly what did I expect. I was the creep who friended him in the first place…

• This usually ends up into hour long conversations on facebook, and lets not forget about those additional text messages on Friday nights. But honestly what is the point.. I know more about these guys from facebook chat then actually hanging out with them in real life. They tell me about there sport obsessions, jobs, and the plans for the weekend. They usually tell me about how they plan to buy a house soon or move for a job.  Sweet. I am soooooo impressed. What would really impress me is if you would actually take me on a date. The world would actually stop revolving.

• To make matters worse not only do they “want” to hang out.. they usually end up living 3 hours away, or in an entirely different state all together. Maybe I should stop traveling to visit friends and start trying to stay home. ORRR maybe I should stop friending these guys who get my number all together. They usually get my number to freaking TEXT me anyways. Because really what is the point. It is just a tease. If a guy really likes you he will leave the comfort of the house he is still probably living in with his mother and step away from the computer to actually hang out in real life.

• One last thing on the topic of the internet and facebook. I believe things always look better in your head. Yea you can look at his pictures, read his info, and find out all about his life through facebook chat. But we are human and in the back of our heads we are sugar coating the situation. We are creating the fantasy of our ideal perfect mate. We are creating situations in our heads such as.. “What if..”. We are only looking at the good qualities. In order to really get to know someone you have to experience them in there natural environment. Because no one is perfect and what if he smells bad…? Meeting once and then becoming friends online isn’t really a great indicator of getting to know someone. Probably will end up being just that. Friends on facebook.

That is all I have for now. I know I can find more blunders soon. Deciphering texts and facebook messages really are a waste of time. Hanging out in real time….. (no  I do not mean on twitter) is what should really be occurring. Because who really wants to waste time deciphering code, I would much rather catch a movie, travel or get a drink with my friends.  Your thoughts?

***B